How do you handle the day-to-day fluctuations of life and business?
In our personal lives and at our organizations, invariably things happen we dislike: a new policy; another person – coworker, client, family, service provider etc., behaves in a manner other than we desire; a task takes two to three (or more) times longer than anticipated and on and on. What if instead of reacting to such occurrences as major ordeals you or your team chose to expand your skills so you responded in a different manner? As individuals perform better, companies perform better. Imagine your day, the teamwork, when you stop turning over your serenity and your ability to perform.
In comparison, there are truly more intense moments to deal with, such as what my professional colleague is currently facing.
Reality is, every day there are any number of undesired or uninvited happenings that occur. Of course there are aspects that may be inconvenient and frustrating.
Do you let them bog you down or do you simply notice them and stay on course?
It has been said, a person’s character can be measured by the level of what irritates or annoys him or her.
On a recent walk in a cul-de-sac development nearby, I met a woman waiting for a ride. As I entered we exchanged smiles and hellos. Upon my exiting she asked me if I routinely walk in that area. I replied yes and we had a brief conversation as she shared her ride was twenty minutes late. Just then a car with two people arrived. We expressed desire for each other to enjoy the day and both went on our way.
Completing my walk I reflected how she was joyous and pleasant as she waited. What I admired was her ability to maintain her power and control regardless of someone else’s behavior. What would your life be like from a place of empowerment? Sure, in general it is unacceptable to be late. It also however is best to have all the facts; which of course I was without; before drawing a conclusion. In addition, another consideration would be if there was any pattern. And even if there was a pattern in this case, the woman I met obviously made a choice to accept the ride.
Whether at work/business or in your personal life consider the following:
Are you focusing on what’s in your control or out of your control? Focus on what is out of your control elevates stress. You take personal responsibility when you focus on what is in your control.
Then, are you steadily moving forward by taking action on what is in your
control or are you resisting what is?
Resistance will be observed as complaining; typically repetitively as action will be missing; about wanting something to be different than it is. This demonstrates a “poor me” attitude; which by the way none of us like to admit when we have one; and usually occurs when the focus is on what is out of your control. Phrases such as “I didn’t have a choice” or “What can I do” are often said in a demoralizing or defeating tone.
Obviously there are a lot of possibilities in this scenario. The point is to pay
attention to your demeanor on a daily basis. How much of your day are you annoyed, irritated or feel ruffled or unsettled in some way? Remember, life is a series of moment-by-moment decisions. Are your moments leading you in a positive direction or a negative one? Whichever way you decide, your choices are moving you and transforming you in a way that naturally affects your peace of mind, your performance, and the bottom line – individually and at your organization. What have you realized about your choices?
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