What change are you resisting? What if you simply gave yourself permission to move through the transformation? It’s quite possible a modification of your thoughts, words, actions, or any combination of the three is required instead of the adjustment from something external of you.
Change, paradoxically enough, is the one constant in life. Everything is continually changing; even the things you think are stationary. You do yourself a grave disservice wishing for the status quo. You must continually evolve, grow and adapt, in life and in business, as it is the nature of the universe. A resistance to do so elevates stress.
I get it. Whether you’re an entrepreneur or you work for an organization, you have multiple demands and may feel like you’re the target of a firing squad at times. Imagine, regardless of those conditions, getting more done in less time and with less stress. It can . . . and does for many . . . happen. Though still challenged at times, for the most part I’ve adopted a philosophy of many leaders and successful people. That is, the mindset that every situation presents an opportunity to learn and grow, or at minimum to assess growth.
As many of you who are connected with me on Social Media (SM) already know– what, you mean you’ve yet to connect with me on SM? Get connected with links at the bottom – I was recently involved in a car accident.
In an instant my car (as you can see) was transformed into a mangled mess of metal. The impact was sudden and without notice. One minute I was driving and the next I found myself sitting in a vehicle that was stopped with a deployed airbag in my lap.
As you may imagine I was quite shaken. When I got out of my vehicle there immediately were people – Good Samaritans, angels if you will disguised as “strangers” – approaching me to offer support. Other assistance soon came from the police, medical crew and two friends who I had phoned. You probably can guess the aid from the service professionals. My friends called my insurance for me plus helped with decisions regarding towing the car, as I now know I was in a bit of shock at the time. In other words, a team is a critical piece in all aspects of life; even when some are only temporary.
Is this a desired situation in my life? Of course not! The fact remains it is now part of my experience and reality. How many times do you attempt to ignore something in hopes that it goes away or wished it never occurred? That is wasted effort and energy. Instead, redirect yourself. Is it easy? That’s actually irrelevant.
Feelings are real to the person experiencing them for sure. It is also known our thoughts create our feelings. Therefore, thinking blame for example, will lead to very different emotions than consciously deciding a direction to proceed.
Do things out of your control occur? Absolutely. Be careful here; like the warning track in baseball; as this is where it can be tempting to make excuses and exonerate your responsibility for what is yours. What can you control? How you respond!
In spite of the circumstances and resulting associated follow ups required, a lot can be learned when looked at from a broader view.
Six Steps to Keep You on Track When Life Throws You a Curve Ball
1-The unexpected can occur at ANY time and from ANY direction. STOP procrastinating and develop your skills so you can be as prepared as possible for whatever is thrown your way.
2- Focus and take one step at a time. What is the first (or next) thing to do? Decide on the action, let go of judging and over analyzing the decision, take the action, repeat. Life is a series of moment by moment decisions.
3- Keep things in perspective! Things can almost always be worse. If it truly is the worst, take a breath and return to the step two to proceed.
4- Be willing, open and receptive to accept help along the way WITHOUT expecting others to do everything. Also, remember support may come in a variety of forms.
5- Take the action that is yours, stay out of other people’s business, and trust the process for what is truly out of your control. Faith is crucial and functioning from low attachment allows insights to flow.
6- Continue incrementally until the task, issue, or situation is resolved. Though certain you would prefer otherwise, it is important to note, you may be applying this, and all these steps, to multiple facets or projects at once, as the universe has been known to deliver more than one curve ball at a time.
What unexpected event has thrown you off course? How will you use these steps?
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