Have you ever asked life, the Universe, or God for something only to seem to receive the complete opposite? How did you respond? Could it be you got exactly what you asked for just not how you wanted it?
Every morning I focus on gratitude before I get out of bed. As I do that I’m aligning my thoughts and vibrations for what I desire in the day. Do you start your day paving a positive path of what you want or are you paving a negative path of what you don’t want? (More on this another time, but for now know you begin paving your day with your initial thoughts, whether you actually want the outcome or not – so be selective!)
Recently I started my day thanking the Universe for my phone, computer, and mail bringing me good news. Well, when I checked email a “not interested” message from a potential client was in my inbox. In my humanness I experienced a moment of disappointment. Where do I go from here? What amazed me was what followed.
I began examining how I define good news. If you’re puzzled and find yourself questioning if I’m really warped, know that I too had these same thoughts! What seemed like backward or twisted thinking was how I knew I was on to something.
In other words, our current thoughts are only effective enough to get us where we are. If we want to advance ourselves (in any capacity) we have to think thoughts that contradict our current thinking habits.
This is our challenge as human beings, since our brains are wired to convince us that anything we continually think is truth, and therefore a contrary thought is wrong, false, a lie – whatever message is generated for you.
In order to learn we must change very developed thought patterns to new thought patterns. Guaranteed this will create an internal debate. The more significant impact the new thought will have on our life, the greater the intensity of the internal debate. The more intense the debate, the more necessary it is to shift our thinking.
Always adhere to your core values, however, be willing to examine them, and most importantly, DO NOT confuse core values with ingrained thought patterns. What’s the difference?
Ingrained thought patterns often have a need to make someone/something wrong to prove its rightness. Have you noticed this creates inner turmoil, not inner peace? Inner peace is the clue to true alignment with our core values.
What was the good news deduced from my “not interested” email? I could say “Next” and redirect my time and energy in a more productive direction. The Universe (as always, but the question is, “Am I receptive?”) was guiding me. Sure, sometimes we need to persist after a “not interested” response. When do we persist and when do we say, “Next”? Which creates inner peace for you?
But exactly, HOW did I move from disappointment to an empowering thought?
- Breathe (may sound simplistic yet this is an often forgotten step!)
- Back up from the situation. We’re often too close and need to not take it personally (results when apply steps 1&2 effectively – may need to repeat several times)
- Ask “What’s the gift in this?”
- Shift focus to the gift you identified in step 4.
Imagine your life when you redefine good news. Imagine our world when we redefine good news and focus on the gifts. I suspect you’ve heard, “blessings often come in disguises.” How receptive are you? What good news are you avoiding because you don’t like the package?