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Have you ever wished other
people treated you differently than they do? Do you have people in your
life whose behaviors annoy you? Are there people you interact with that
you believe have a lot of nerve?
When I present the concepts from
Communicating Beyond Differences I pose
to the audience that people and situations we label difficult are actually
our gifts. As you may suspect, that invites a few responses. Did that
trigger a reaction in you?
Dr. Wayne Dyer
says our most difficult people are our greatest teachers.
As tough as this may be to swallow, we are treated EXACTLY as we treat
ourselves. For example, if we berate ourselves with negative self-talk, we
attract people who berate us. If we make excuses and blame, we find
ourselves surrounded by excuses makers and blamers.
If you don’t like the type of people you’re surrounded by – change your
surroundings. Of course we cannot change other people, so how do we change
the people we’re surrounded by? By changing ourselves!
Typically this concept causes people to respond in one of two ways – with
a claim of innocence and all the justifications of their valiant efforts
(only thing missing is the halo), or with excuses in the form of verbal
utterances without complete sentences. The latter of course stems from
blaming instead of taking responsibility.
I’ve traveled both of these avenues at length. Neither of which led to any
satisfaction or effectiveness. The people I’m surrounded by change only
after I be the person I want to see.
Here are the necessary steps to create your desired change:
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Look at the type of people
you’re surrounded by
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What don’t you like about
them?
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Now the PAINFUL yet
ESSENTIAL step – turn the mirror on yourself! Yes, where’s the
resemblance in you! We only get annoyed with aspects of others that
resonate with us. Think about it. Have you’ve ever had someone’s
behavior/actions not phase you at all? Sure you have, because it didn’t
resonate with you. We don’t trigger an emotional response if it doesn’t
strike a chord with us – so where’s the connection?!
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And the transformation step
– Be the person you want to see! This will take lots of
practice and a daily commitment.
Though this will NOT be a
quick process, it will be both rewarding and permanent. Basically you
create a new way of life.
Here’s the irony – if you don’t choose this path, you automatically choose
the path of focusing on others and blaming – so choose wisely!
Which path do you prefer? Do your actions support your claim? It’s easy to
give lip service – that’s why authenticity is critical.
Take a moment and imagine your life when you be the person you want
to see – Now go create that person!
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Karen for your next event?
Please contact
Karen@KarenGridley.com or
visit www.KarenGridley.com
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You can preach a better sermon with your life than with your lips.
Oliver Goldsmith
We’re all role models, either positively or negatively, no matter
what station in life we occupy. It’s one of the things we attain by being
human beings in a community of other human beings.
Bill Norwood
Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only
thing.
Albert Schweitzer |
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