What do you think of when you hear the word ‘relationship’? Family, significant other (or dating)? What about co-workers, clients/customers, Facebook, yourself, and the Divine? Have you also considered your relationship with money, material possessions, nature, food and possibly drugs and alcohol?
There are so many types and facets of relationships. It is common to hear people say – in personal and professional settings – “it’s all about the relationships.” What exactly does that mean? On some level I get it and yet putting it into practice can be interesting at times.
For example, have you ever been annoyed, irritated or agitated in any capacity with someone’s behavior only to learn they did something kind and generous for you? What behavior do you exhibit that can be challenging for others when interacting with you?
I’m never a challenge for others, lol! Hmmm, let’s explore . . .
1 – I tend to be inquisitive and ask a lot of questions. The majority (yes, I falter too) of the time my intent is only an insatiable thirst for knowledge / understanding and a fascination for how things work or people operate. This behavior though can be out of bounds at times, as well as come across as callous and pushy. Sigh.
2 – I absolutely LOVE to learn and teach. Growing up my siblings would get mad at me because when I wasn’t watching or playing sports I wanted to play school. They apparently had plenty of the ‘real’ school . . . and on top of it; I of course was always the teacher! Makes sense now, huh?! Anyway, sometimes I inadvertently come across insulting, go figure! In my mind, I simply want to share everything I can offer in support of others and to ensure their success.
3 – Many people have shared I communicate well and articulate information in a way that can be grasped so that people move into application. This is a great asset in my coaching/consulting and workshop facilitation. Yet sometimes initiating conversations with prospects can be awkward and uncomfortable. An opportunity to improve for sure!
What behaviors do you ‘innocently’ exhibit that could be the culprit for some of the relationship issues you may experience? Imagine being completely honest with yourself so that you were empowered – both personally and professionally.
Communication tips to elevate your relationships:
• Refrain from personally attacking others AND from taking things personally
• Trust your instincts NOT your insecurities
• Give judgment (of yourself and others) a vacation – the longer the better!
• If it feels like something is being forced, it probably is – let go!
• Even if it feels scary, you may still be on track
• Decide if you’re focused on resolution or on being right
Which tip is most pertinent for you? Share your thoughts.
Let me know any way to support you.