Have you ever felt jealous of someone’s success or achievement? Envious someone had something you’d like for yourself? I know I have. How about thrown a tantrum in attempt to get your own way? Guilty here. Maybe even hoped they’d at least feel bad? Sigh. I’ve done that too!
Are any of these responses beneficial to anyone involved? Of course not. These responses actually put us in a lower energy state. If you doubt this just consider how you feel after such an occurrence.
In order to achieve desired results we need to strive to function from a higher energy state. The main reason to keep ourselves in a higher energy state is to allow more good things to flow to us. Surrendering to a lower energy state instead blocks the very things we desire. Therefore we would be better served if we appreciated every success, including others’ and even when they have something we wished we had.
This of course is the challenging part to apply. Recently I had the great pleasure to visit Sea World with loved ones. If you’ve never been to Sea World first let me say I believe it’s an experience worth having. Every day there’s at least one “Shamu” show. Shamu is the general term for the killer whales, though they each have their own name.
At every show a child is pre-selected to have the unique opportunity to share their dream with the audience, meet “Shamu” up close, pet its fin and feed the whale a fish. As a result of sitting near the little girl who was selected for the show we learned selection is an arbitrary process.
This little girl was with her parents, a younger sister, and an older brother. Her younger sister was quite distraught she wasn’t chosen and could not participate with her sister. Then the girl chosen expressed feeling guilty and questioned partaking in the opportunity.
As I overheard this interaction I had compassion for both girls and reflected how as humans we tend to respond in these types of situations. We say we support other people, especially loved ones, and their dreams, good fortune etc and yet at the moment of impact most of us feel cheated or shorted when we aren’t the direct recipient. What is often overlooked is that since everything is energy when we feel envious we are figuratively pushing our wishes away from us. If we could shift ourselves to a place of joy we keep the channels open for opportunities for our desires. By no means am I implying this is easy.
Additionally isn’t it ironic how when we are the direct beneficiary we often shift to lower energy by creating guilt and doubt. These may appear to come from outside ourselves but they are self-induced. No one can create them for us unless we decide to play that game.
What if we chose joy over being jealous? Wouldn’t that feel better? A gremlin may counter, “but I’m still without!” Maybe in that situation; remember we need to transform the garbage generating gremlins; and there’ll be another time where you are the direct recipient. Besides, don’t you wish people were happy for your successes? Granted these are little girls in this example. How many of us though are far beyond their years yet respond on their level?
What if we could demonstrate and truly feel the supportive behavior we desired from others when we appear “cheated or shorted” by life? Wouldn’t joy feel better than jealous? Wouldn’t that be a powerful role model? Wouldn’t you prefer people share in the joy of your accomplishments?
The best way I’ve learned to create this shift is to practice living in appreciation. Many people learn to appreciate their challenges as opportunities though this is not the place to start. Set yourself up for success and begin by appreciating what you actually feel joy about on a daily basis. This requires a conscious commitment. The more appreciation you express the greater the joy. The more joy you feel, the more you appreciate. This is a beneficial cycle that builds personal empowerment. Conscious or unconscious you choose in every aspect of life and experience the associated result. What will it be for you Joy or Jealous?