How are you doing with your 2014 goals? Have you abandoned pursuit already?
Mid to late January is typically when the majority of people lose motivation and cease any action toward their goals . . . that is if they identified any goals!
Three common reasons for abandoning desires and keys to overcoming them:
You were interested versus committed. Commitment is a decision. Make a decision and voice it out loud. Say aloud, “I commit . . .” and fill in the blank.
You lack accountability and support. Friends rarely work as accountability partners. Work with a coach. Yes, I’m fully aware of what I’m saying here. I work with coaches and would never be where I am without them. No matter how successful you are you would benefit. A start to being accountable for your goal/commitment is to post with the link at the end of this article to make public.
You are functioning without a plan or using it ineffectively. Break your plan for the year into 60-90 day plans. Yes, plan every 60-90 days! There are many variables and unexpected changes that occur. Also, if it’s important to you, track it; otherwise you merely have a guessing game.
To stay the course, affirm your commitment daily and of course there are more tips and techniques in my e-book Goal Setting for Recovering Excuse Makers. Remember, achieving goals often requires the creation of new habits. Repetition is the foundation of forming habits. Keep in mind too, when you give in to “don’t feel like” doing what’s necessary or practicing, it is the equivalent of a conscious choice to repeat the patterns that have formed your existing habits.
That “don’t feel like it” syndrome is an excuse many people use that relinquishes ones power. Ironically, then they expend a ton of energy complaining about everything they dislike in their life.
One of my excuses I had convinced myself of in the past is that people “felt” like doing what was necessary and I was unaware how to get myself to “feel like it.” I allowed this excuse to hinder me for a long time. How did I overcome the excuse?
I was shocked to learn people who take appropriate action only appear to “always feel like it.” Being successful in any aspect is about doing what’s necessary whether you feel like it or not. It sounds so simple here, yet the implementation was (and is) work. I had to be willing to let go of a belief I had adhered to for some time. Hanging onto the belief was permission to hide behind the excuse. From that vantage point learning never occurs as our receptivity is blocked.
A couple of years ago I made a commitment to exercise on a consistent basis. When I first put it into action it was a downright chore! Even in spite of the fact that I liked how I felt afterwards and it was beneficial from a health standpoint. I tracked how many days a week I exercised. Initially my target was three times a week – at the time that took tremendous effort to achieve. Little by little it expanded from there. Now, when I’m not on the road, I consistently exercise an average of six days a week; most weeks it’s seven. Depending on my travels some exercise is incorporated, usually to a lesser degree. What’s awesome is when I return, my exercise routine resumes automatically. Are there still days the “I don’t feel like it” bug looms? Absolutely. The difference is they are less frequent and less of a challenge to surpass.
Are you allowing yourself to hide behind excuses or giving up on yourself too easy? Whether you are a busy professional or an entrepreneur, goals are essential to your development personally and professionally. What’s your next move?