This time of year (in the US) there is a lot of focus on taxes. Taxes of course center on our earnings and choices we make (made) with our money. Money is a delicate topic for some, taboo for others, and simply another source of complaining for still others. One note on complaining, how many of you have noticed that when we complain we grumble on an array of topics? This is an important behavior characteristic to understand. It has been said, the way we do anything is the way we do everything. Look closely at your behavior!
It is up to each of us to be responsible for generating our means to living the life we desire. When we are acting responsibly, it is also important to be open and receptive to allowing our wealth to be expanded in a variety of ways. Otherwise limited thinking also limits our possibilities. These limitations may show up as an inability to recognize different forms of monetary expansion and therefore overlook the blessings bestowed upon us. These limitations may however also result from excuses, negating or dismissing other avenues as trivial (“Where’s that going to get me?” or “That little bit won’t make a difference”) and lacking follow through with what’s necessary to have them come to fruition ( “I was uncomfortable asking if there was a payment plan available”).
Though possibly a given; it is pertinent to note here that one must continually be improving their own capacity and effort along the way. Failure to do so, one succumbs to expectations of others, which cause tremendous damage.
How? Expectations of others set the people involved (including ourselves) and the situation up for disappointments. This of course is detrimental for all involved. Ironically, many of us fail to notice we’re the very cause of our tremendous pain. Having expectations of others (no matter the relation – family, friend, business interaction etc) stems from an entitlement perspective; whether one admits it or denies it; based in self-centeredness that often results in us feeling “owed”. Recall a time you felt wronged or cheated. How long ago was the actual incident? How did you grow from the experience or are you still harboring ill-natured feelings?
Now think of a situation you were able to move beyond feeling “owed”. As you reflect on the situation, what made the difference in your willingness or ability to let go? Many have shared that no matter what the “wrong-doer” (or anyone for that matter) said, did or gave; there was still a feeling of being wronged or cheated and they found themselves looking for more. This is because those wounds are only healed from the inside out.
If you’re still wrestling with feeling wronged, cheated or “owed”, let me offer a great message recently heard in church that hit home for me – “focus on your own inability to love (unforgiveness, greed, envy, wrath etc) instead of another’s behavior”. OUCH! To be clear, focusing on one’s own vice is with the intention to make improvements, berating self is unadvised.
Before sharing some opportunities that have blessed my life, let me first acknowledge there may be a variety of experiences with what’s listed and a multitude of other scenarios beyond mine. That said, where are the items (or other similarities) applicable in your life? Speaking of acknowledgment, a correlation stream that is important to remember is when we’re unaware, we lack recognition. Without recognition there is no appreciation. These two attributes are the necessary fuel to receiving (being blessed with) more.
Here are some examples (blessings) of different forms of monetary expansion from my life:
- Tax return received. (How have you used yours? Commitments, investments, frivolous?)
- Held a yard sale and received exact amount for expense at hand (plus the process of de-cluttering is therapeutic and clears the waves for new)
- Participated in grant which allowed me to work with Three Dog Marketing
- People/businesses who accepted payment plans
- Exchanged services to meet all parties needs
- Modified business phone plan for lower monthly cost
- Borrowed money from family – ALWAYS paying back!
- Found money (mostly coins) – it all adds up! (Ask my Mom how blessed I am in this capacity)
- Rebate checks received
- Opted to eat home instead of out
- Met and secured new clients through networking
- Improved my skills to be more effective and provide greater value
- Involved in activities that raise the vibrational energy state (such as: meditation, exercise, smiling, pleasant demeanor, positive thinking, interacting with upbeat people etc) allowing for greater receptivity to attracting other higher energy state outcomes
What else have you experienced? Share your thoughts here.
Though some steps in and of themselves will be incapable of seeming to make a difference; like many aspects of our lives; it is the culmination effect over time that produces results. Many of these can produce immediate benefits as well as throughout the year. We tend to have certain thoughts, however, associated with particular events and therefore maybe we’re a little more conscientious at the moment due to the tax season. Anytime we have a heightened awareness is always a great opportunity to implement improvements. Act now before the momentum vanishes. Remember, without any modification, you will most likely be having the same conversation with yourself again next year at this time. What excuses will you transform so a year from now you can celebrate more progress than simply being a year older?