Did you know the typical human being thinks over 60,000 thoughts a day? I know I’m not conscious of my 60,000 thoughts, are you? Yet these thoughts create our feelings and our outcomes.
Often people think outside circumstances cause our inner responses. Science and spirituality have shown otherwise. What we experience externally is the evidence of the interactions of the internal, not the proof for why the internal exists – even if we aren’t aware what is transpiring! (You may want to reread that last sentence slowly.) You can easily conduct your own experiment. Maybe you already have but weren’t attentive of the correlations.
Let’s consider a common experience – driving (even if you don’t drive but have ever been a passenger you can relate to this). Have you ever been in a car and have someone cut in front of you? Silly question I know, stay with me here. When that happened did you find yourself getting irritated (or whatever feeling arose for you)? But, have you also had someone cut in front of you and you weren’t phased? Maybe you nonchalantly responded, “I guess they’re in a hurry”?
What was different in the two scenarios? YOUR thought! Your thought about someone cutting in front of you determined your response. Therefore, a key to knowing if you’re thinking beneficial thoughts is to tune into your body. If you’re at ease and feel calm, loving, and easy going, your thoughts are in alignment with energy that is beneficial to you. If on the other hand, you are at dis-ease and feel anxious, fearful, and annoyed (agitated, angry etc), your thoughts are misaligned and create energy that is harmful to you.
Be careful here – the event or action of another person has NOT caused the destructive energy you experience. YOUR thoughts regarding the situation or person have caused your dis-ease. If you’re thinking some situations and/or people are more challenging to apply this concept I totally agree. However, that does not change the responsibility we have to ourselves regarding our own thoughts. After all, we will create the experience whether we choose to be responsible or not!
In fact, when we think thoughts that cause dis-ease over and over we create disease in our bodies. Also, alcohol and other substances can modify our thought patterns. Many people have experienced the brief, temporary change after one or a few drinks. However, prolonged regular use can create a more permanent alteration in the way we think. Though there are many contributing factors the bottom line is repetitive thought, whether on our own or substance induced, contributes to our overall health.
There are two common rebuttals for taking responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and outcomes.
1 – If I think different thoughts, I’m letting “them” off the hook
2 – I’m entitled to my feelings and besides anyone would feel this way in this situation.
Let’s examine the first myth. When you keep thinking dis-ease thoughts does the other person appear phased? Does thinking dis-ease thoughts resolve or improve the situation in any way? So if you think different thoughts, thoughts that put you at ease, who are you really letting off the hook? It’s a paradigm shift that must occur and where’s your focus?
Regarding the second myth – each of us is certainly entitled to our feelings – more than most of us realize. Whenever we think a thought, we in fact are the only person who will experience that associated feeling. The second half of this myth serves as a justification which prohibits taking responsibility. And, when said in the above manner, infers everyone would feel the same.
Have you ever witnessed a situation where one person was annoyed by another person’s behavior and yet a third party had no reaction? Or, ever have someone come to you complaining about what another person said (or did) and you don’t understand their irritation because you think it’s no big deal?
Point is, not everyone feels the same in all situations. Even if most would agree, does that consensus serve you or anyone in a beneficial manner? In other words, consider the majority is not always right. That’s exactly why a small percentage of people are actually living their desired life because they have habits contrary to the majority!
Also, have you ever heard (or maybe said yourself), “If everyone else is doing it (whatever it is) does that mean you have to too?” My parents would often say, “If everyone is jumping off a bridge would you?” You may have even used this phrase as ammunition against others. However, then have you utilized that same phrase when it’s convenient for you – in other words, as an excuse? And finally, refer back to the examination of myth number one
Remember our thoughts are energy. Our level of awareness does not change the correlation but when you strive to increase your awareness it can alter the thoughts you think and then change the choices you make. Use the following questions as a guide to create your desired outcomes. What/How am I feeling now? Is this what I desire to experience? If not, what do I desire to experience? What thought is going to attract energy that is beneficial and in alignment with that desire? Am I willing to act in accordance?